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The holidays don't have to be a battle for the divorced - II

In a previous post, our blog discussed how divorce can prove to be something of a double-edged sword for many people.

One the one hand, it can provide them with a much-needed escape from an otherwise unhappy marriage and enable them to pursue life on their own terms. On the other hand, it can present them with serious challenges from acclimating to new financial circumstances to, perhaps most significantly, adjusting to less time with their children.

These challenges may become amplified during the holiday season, a time of the year they have more than likely long associated with spending time with their family.

However, as we discussed last time, there are some basic steps that divorced spouses can take to help ensure that the holiday season doesn't remains both productive and enjoyable.

Clean the house: While this may seem like the last thing you would ever want to do over the holidays, experts argue that it can actually prove to be a rather meaningful experience. That's because it can serve as something of a catharsis, enabling you to clear out unpleasant memories, and clear the way for entirely new and entirely unique holiday experiences.

Be inventive: If you and your spouse divorced after many years of marriage and had children together, the holidays can be very difficult as you may find yourself longing for traditions past, and struggling to fill the ensuing holiday void. In order to combat this lonely feeling, experts urge people to be proactive and attempt to create new altogether new holiday traditions with their children. While it may take awhile to solidify these new traditions, they argue that the relative newness of the entire experience can actually serve to enhance its fun and strengthen family bonds.

Reflect and accept: Many recently divorced people say that they have moved on from their divorce and are at peace with the past. Unfortunately, this is often not the case. As such, experts urge those divorced people who are still struggling with their divorces to consider setting aside some time during the holidays to reflect on the end of their marriage. Such an exercise, they argue, is not about assessing the reasons behind the divorce, but rather accepting the divorce itself, a move that allows you to move forward with your life and not dwell on the past.

If you would like to learn more about divorce, spousal maintenance, child custody or other family law issues here in Texas, consider speaking with a dedicated and determined legal professional.

Source: The Huffington Post, "10 tips to enjoy the holidays post-divorce," Diane Danois, Nov. 12, 2013

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